Her birthday is this Saturday (yeah, 9/11). It will be the first family holiday, if you will, that we have not been together as husband and wife. She is going camping with our adult son, and I already have other plans, so obviously we will not be together.
I have been thinking about this for some time, and decided that yes, I was going to get her a present. I got her something simple, a gift card to a store that she likes. I left it on my kitchen table, because she had to come over and drop off some items for me.
She called me and said thank you. That pleased me. I believe I made the right choice on this one.
I talked to another friend last weekend. Turns out he has a marriage that is very similar to mine, although they have been married a few years longer. They married young, kids are all grown, she’s lost interest in sex, and he is afraid of what is going to happen. We both agreed that we have to treat them as birds and allow them to fly away, and hope that someday they will come home.