I find myself at an interesting point in my life and relationship.
I’ve finally come to the conclusion that the odds of my ex returning are very slim to none, and I’ve taken a baby step in moving on. Yup, I signed up for an account on eHarmony.
Taking the first step was easy, but filling out the questionnaire that eHarmony gives was a task. I probably spent three days working on my ‘application’, making sure I knew what to say, what to put down, what questions to select. Then I uploaded a few pictures (not too many since I usually take the pictures) and we were off.
Immediately I got 7 matches, but many of them were not really matches for me. They were either too religious, even though I specified “spiritual but not religious”, or too politically conservative (I’m a moderate, leaning left). Most had pictures, and I immediately noticed that most of the women looked old. I mean, I know they are late 40s to early 50s, but still. I felt like I was looking at my mother-in-law, or my grandmother, not potential dating partners.
My match numbers are up to 167, and still a majority are ‘old ladies’. There are a smattering of what I like to call ‘hot babes I don’t have a shot at’ on the list also. These are the wealthy upper crust of society that would
look thumb their nose at a middle class guy like me, if they even looked in my direction. I’m not saying these aren’t nice women, they just are used to expensive homes, expensive cars, and expensive jewelry, not Walmart, JC Penney and Sears.
The ‘old ladies’ is what bothers me the most. I wonder if these are products of the late 50s and early 60s when these women were kids, and were being told that men only want ‘good’ women, not those floozies that were burning their bras, or espousing free love on Haight-Ashbury while doing LSD with Timothy Leary… well, you get the picture. My ex was brought up that way. She was expected to dress dowdy, not be interested in sexual pleasure, and was to be there to raise the kids. It took many years of coaxing by me to bring her out of that dowdy shell, and those who know her now would be amazed to have seen her when we first met.
So what is a guy to do? Are there any enlightened females out there that are my age? So far, I’m not impressed by what eHarmony is offering, but time will tell.