Someone sent me a link from E-Harmony, the internet dating site, that had to do with actress Mariel Hemingway. It seems that she divorced her husband of many years, and has found a new love.
You can read her entire posting here. Instead of thinking “way to go, Mariel!”, my only thought was “well, hell, you selfish bitch… you gave up on your marriage instead of finding a way to make it work.
For instance, in her post on EHarmony, Ms. Hemingway states: “The years shifted our love into loyalty, compassion, and deep friendship.” I call BULLSHIT!! Maybe it was her love that shifted, but I’d bet dollars to donuts that his love never shifted… it was always about loyalty, compassion and friendship, because that is what love is. Admit it, Mariel, you fell out of lust, and weren’t capable of loving him. You just want someone to rock your world, and you will “fall out of love” with your new beau too.
Sure, there are some real jerks (both men and women) out there, that really don’t “love” people, they are just out to use the other sex for their benefit. But I’ve come to the conclusion that men and women, especially the older they get, have polar opposite views on what a loving relationship should be.
I’m not sure that I understand what is going on in the female mind, but I can tell you what has gone on in my mind over the years. (I can already hear the snarky comments!) Love is something that develops. Two people fall in lust first. Those first five years (or so) they are learning about each other, and getting used to each other, and ultimately falling in love. That’s what happened to me. I admit it. I wanted to get into my exes pants, and over the years that emotion never waned, but I fell truly in love with her. Even after the lust wore off, I was able to appreciate every part of her, even the bad stuff. But instead of her working to keep her marriage alive, she just gave up, and wanted to get the lust back, or as she told a friend, the magic.
Well, I got news for both my ex and Mariel. You got it wrong. You are both selfish. And you need to grow up and realize that you are hurting people around you.