The birthday/wedding day has passed, and everything is getting back to normal. She has started her new life with the biker boy, and I’m dealing with it.
I know you are curious, so here are the details (at least the ones I have).
From what I’ve been told, everyone showed up for the surprise party, and after the initial surprise, my ex dropped her bombshell, “to stick around for the wedding”. Well this news was not taken well by a lot of the family members, especially my ex mother-in-law’s sisters, some of whom raised holy hell about the announcement.
My son told me that people were yelling for most of the afternoon… so much in fact that he and a cousin decided to disappear for a while, and chill by the river.
Oh, and it was a biker wedding. She had all the guests wear bandanas, and she and the groom were in leather. My son was asked at the last minute to walk her down the aisle, which, of course, everyone loved… except my son. Again, this was another surprise that the ex pulled at the last minute. (as an aside, my son does not want to talk about the weekend, and only told me this because he was drunk).
And to top things off, the groom decided that it would be a good idea to Facebook friend my son. Really? My son was very upset, because how could he say no. (He can’t).
So where does this leave me? I have to admit I was very pleased that the day was not perfect, although I really feel sorry for the mother. Her day should have never been hijacked. Of course her mom said all the right things, but deep down I know she feels cheated. I also know that my ex truly is not right in the head. She has decided that the only one who matters is her, and if it hurts others along the way, so be it.
Amazingly, I felt somewhat free when she said “I do”. I really don’t know why. Now I am trying to spend all of my energies with my new lover, and trying to make this triad thing work for all three of us. I know that I really have to walk on eggshells with her hubby, because I don’t want him to feel slighted, but yet, I want to spend as much time as possible with my love.
I’m still searching for a good job, and actually had two interviews this week… in fact, those are the first real interviews I’ve had since February, 2012. I’m now at 16 months of being underemployed, and let me tell you, I am so ready to get back to having a real income. I’ve signed the paperwork to put the house on the market, and once I sell that, I will have a major burden off my back.
So right now, life is good. Writing this blog has been a big help to me, as I’ve been able to vent in ways I never imagined. And the comments I’ve received have helped me, too. I’m not sure what else there is to write about on this subject. The page has turned, and I’m working on a new chapter. It will be interesting to see where it all leads.