I got to see my ex today! I was so happy!!! I needed to give her some mail that had recently arrived at the house, and since she was in town to visit our son, I asked if we could meet during her visit. I knew she only had a short time in town, so if we were to visit, it would probably be a short one.
Fortunately, events worked out so that we could have donuts and coffee this morning, and we got about a 30 minute visit. It was so good to see her. We talked about her new living arrangement, and other small talk. We actually had some mutual things that we exchanged info on, and it was really nice.
But how does the title of this blog match up with seeing my ex? I’m reading a new book, called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman (ISBN:881273156).
The synopsis from Amazon’s web site is:
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?
In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.
The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.
As I was looking at my beautiful ex-wife, I wondered if I was not reading her love languages correctly. I listened intently to what she was saying, and tried to interpret what it was that she wanted that I was unable to give her. I’m pretty sure I know what my languages are, and it seems that we have two different goals. I will have to do some further thinking on that particular subject.
I don’t know if I will ever have another chance with her, but if I do, I will make sure that I understand what love language she needs to hear from me. And as I go through my current relationship, and any future relationships, I hope this will help me to make it a better and long lasting event.