My ex wife called me two nights ago. I had been worried about her, because she usually responds to my texts rather quickly, but I had sent her two text the weekend before, and she had not responded.
I wasn’t sure what was up. She sounded upbeat, but then she told me the news. Only days after they celebrated their 4th anniversary, her husband said he was done, and wanted a divorce.
I really feel sorry for her, as now she is going through what she put me through. She said she did not see this coming. In fact, her last Facebook post indicates a very happy couple. I won’t go into details on what happened, its not my place to do so.
But it brought back a lot of emotions to me. It brought back those memories of what I was going through when she told me she was done with our marriage. She is feeling the hurt that I felt, and I know that’s not fun. She is feeling inadequacy about what she could have done to save the marriage, just like I did. And she is feeling lost, just like I was.
Had this been a year ago, I would have jumped right back in and tried to win her back. But a lot has happened to me in the last year, and even though I will always love her, I have moved on. I have a new fiance who is so much more than my ex ever was. I know my fiance is a little worried about this news, but she shouldn’t be. I have the love that I so badly need and want, something that my ex never could or would give me.
I will help my ex if she needs it. I will even be there as a shoulder to cry on. But that’s as far as it goes. I hope she can move on from this, but I have a feeling that she will be alone for a very long long time after this.